First up, a strap-on harness. Pegging is the term given to the act of a woman penetrating the man's anus with a dildo. Guys, there is a reason men enjoy receiving anal pleasure from other men, right?! It feels so bloody good! A strap-on harness like the one pictured is perfect for first-timers as it's basic, comfortable and fits any dildo with a flared base. I absolutely recommend experimenting with a softer dildo to start with, as well as lots of lube, and lots of foreplay. Girls, don't think you have to thrust like you've seen the guys do either, just the tip can give lots of pleasure so take it slow, talk to each other and work out what feels good for you both.
Girls, use the Magic Finger Vibe around his anus and to massage his gooch (area between balls and anus!). Stimulating this area with a finger vibe will feel fresh and new and will allow for extended anal pleasure.
The Boomer Banks Anal Fleshlight will allow for penetrative pleasure of a different kind, if you're just used to penetrating a vagina. Get the wife involved by teaching her how to pleasure you with it, or play solo and describe the experience during sexting later!
Quite often, women who have sex with other women enjoy double-ended dildos. There is no shame in also exploring this in your heterosexual relationship! This ToyJoy Infinity Double Dildo is great for mutual pleasure. With a motor at both ends and different pulsation and vibrating settings, mutual pleasure never felt so good! Try both laying on your backs facing each other so you can also get off to each other's pleasure!
If you've ever wondered what it feels like to have a cock cum in your mouth, here's the perfect sex toy for you and your heterosexual relationship! The Squirting Realistic Dildo from Doc Johnson is exactly what it says on the tin- a super realistic way of feeling a cock cum in your mouth!
The clitoral vibe pad is a great sex toy for stimulating clit-on-clit. Position it on a chair in front of the mirror and get to work on your boobs too! If your husband is around, ask him to do the boob work while you grind for the full realistic experience.
The EZ Bang Torso has a vulva positioned for easy access when you also have a vulva! Tribbing with her allows for all the pleasure of the real thing, enhancing the pleasure in your heterosexual relationship.
However you choose to experience pleasure in your relationship, remember that sexuality is not fixed and rigid. You do not have to fit inside that hetero-normative mould just because you're in a heterosexual relationship! Sexuality is fluid and therefore your pleasure is fluid. Have fun experimenting with it!
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